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Wednesday, September 24, 2014

New Blog

Insight for Living’s Special Needs Ministries blog has a new address and a new look! Please change any bookmarks you may have to our new location: www.specialneedsblog.org.

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This archived blog and its pages/urls will be phased out soon.

45 posts categorized "Pastors/Church Ministry"

Tuesday, March 04, 2014

How God's Unexpected Plans for You Work for Good

An Interview with Meaghan Wall

We all have certain fears or phobias—powerful and penetrating worries that can paralyze our thoughts and actions. Fear relates to feelings of anxiety, dread, worry, and being out of control and is often highlighted when circumstances change or our life takes unanticipated twists and turns. Yet Scripture repeatedly reminds us that faith is trusting Christ with the unknown—trusting Him when our plans change and God chooses a very different path for us.

Meaghan Wall had a wonderful life plan as a pre-med student until God led her in a very different direction. God’s plan was not what she could have ever imagined, yet every circumstance, every opportunity, every experience taught her several core lessons that brought her to where she is today.

In this interview, Meaghan honestly speaks to all who have chosen to trust Christ, to walk by faith and not sight. She reminds us that when we choose to let go of our human-made plans, God’s work and will for our lives leads to His working through us in ways we could have never imagined.

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45 posts categorized "Pastors/Church Ministry"

Tuesday, December 03, 2013

Serving Kids with Mental Health Disorders and Their Families [Interview]

An Interview with Dr. Stephen Grcevich

When does “bad parenting” end and “disabilities” begin? Do you know or love a child who learns differently, who may not be able to sit still, who suffers with depression, or who longs for acceptance but is terrified of admitting weakness?

In this interview, Dr. Stephen Grcevich tells us we may be able to reach large numbers of families living within the shadows of our steeples simply through considering how to create ministry environments that are welcoming to families of kids with mental health disorders.

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No single church can meet every potential need of families in their communities of children with disabilities.

But rather than presenting barriers to their full inclusion in the life of the church, every church can be intentional in doing something to share the love of Christ with kids with disabilities and their families.

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Tuesday, October 22, 2013

Underdogs

By Colleen Swindoll Thompson

I had been sorting through stacks of papers for six hours; it was now 1:00 in the morning. Twelve years of my son Jon’s educational tests, medical reports, teachers’ notes, and therapy summaries—once organized in chronological order—had become stacked in disarray on my study shelves over time. Reviewing twelve years of material is overwhelming for most of us; for caregivers it can also be painful.

The silent message between the lines is the repeated acknowledgement that in this world, different usually means less than . . . not fit for this world . . . an underdog for life.

Additionally, the ever-present load of lingering parental self-doubt and guilt hangs overhead. Sorting through it all is an essential earthly endeavor for our loved one’s care, yet the calm and quiet voice of Christ calls us to remember there are no underdogs in His economy.

Underdogs
(Photo by Teak Sato, Public domain, via Wikimedia Commons)

Who’s in the Who’s Who?

I’ve yet to find a growth chart, I.Q. test, reading test, or writing sample that qualifies a person as acceptable in God’s eyes. Jesus never pulled together a group of “experts” who sat around tables making decisions about whom to include in the “in-crowd”; the Pharisees had that job covered. The Pharisees, with puffed-up heads and proud souls, made pathetically hypocritical judgments about “who’s who.” And we know how Christ felt about that bunch.

However, Christ went about His business, simply revealing what it meant, and means, to advocate with love for one another . . . let’s say, how to root for the underdog.

That's you and me.

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Tuesday, September 10, 2013

The Class You Can’t Miss

by Colleen Swindoll Thompson

It was a full house. Parents, students, teachers, and tutors had prepared a day to celebrate students in the summer art class.

The students attended classes once a week for six weeks and learned about famous artists such as Michelangelo, Leonardo da Vinci, Vincent van Gogh, Rembrandt, and Claude Monet. Then the students sat at their own canvases to practice painting some of the famous pieces they had learned about.

The awards began.

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Used with permission from Stonebriar Community Church

Each student was called to the front to receive his or her reward: 

  • Suzy was recognized for her consistent effort
  • Scotty for his diligence
  • Jim for his encouragement
  • Lauren for her courage in trying new styles
  • Jane for being the most joyful artist, whose smile and presence always lit up the room

We applauded with delight all of the students.

Oh, I forgot to mention, all of the students had disabilities—paralysis, extreme shaking, intellectual and social deficits, braced limbs, stiff muscles . . . you name it.

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Tuesday, August 06, 2013

Caring for Families with Hidden Disabilities [Interview]

An Interview with Shannon Royce

Shannon Royce was pursuing her plan for life. She grew up in a pastor’s home, faithfully attended church, married a fine Christian man, and had two children. Life was polished and full of purpose.

But God’s plan was different than Shannon’s. This became clear when her son was diagnosed with hidden disabilities. In addition, Shannon is a cancer survivor.

These disabling conditions may never be easy, expected, or have an end. But Shannon discovered how God provides a way for us to endure; turning our many sorrows into magnificent avenues of comfort for others and intimacy with Him.

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Interview Questions

  1. Can you explain what “hidden disabilities” means?
  2. How have hidden disabilities affected your family?
  3. What are some of the painful things you experienced?
  4. What has encouraged you, and how can the church be an encouragement to non-typical families?
  5. How can non-typical families help the church understand these needs?
  6. You mention “managing life” verses “having control.” What is the difference and how does it affect our lives?

For You

Where do we find hope when we encounter such hardships? The comments section is specifically for you; providing the comfort and connection needed when life is rough.

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Tuesday, May 28, 2013

What You Never Expected

by Colleen Swindoll Thompson

The opening story of the evening news was about a parent who forgot her child in the car. The day’s temperature was 107 degrees, outside of the car.

The next story was about several people gunned down, and the next one detailed a car accident that resulted in severe injuries to all parties.

By then, I turned the channel.

What You Never Expected

We hear about crises all the time. Sometimes we receive reports from friends and family about recent deaths or diseases, accidents, unexpected losses, divorces, financial hardships, and ongoing national disasters.

At other times, television news or Internet sites report an impending crisis in the economy, the weather, or our neighborhoods. Regardless of how often we hear about crises in general, when they happen close to home—to a loved one, a friend, a family member, or to us personally—most people say, “I never expected this would happen to me, to us, to them, or around here.”

Rarely does a person expect a crisis to be personal; therefore, rarely are most people prepared for the recovery process.

But you can be.

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Tuesday, October 09, 2012

Show and Tell

by Colleen Swindoll Thompson

Show-and-tell

The stuff had become a problem. Every time my son, Jon, and I headed out for an event, he gathered his stuff; an ever-growing collection of games and toys jammed into an ever-increasing sized tote bag. The time to purge had come.

But something interesting happened as we started our reduction plan. Jon’s anxiety increased when his stuff decreased. Jon was afraid to go anywhere without all his stuff. One afternoon, the core issue emerged. Jon was struggling to pick a few items to carry, and his tics were becoming pronounced. Suddenly, he looked up and said, “Mom, the kids won’t like me if I don’t have my stuff to show them.” Then he let out a huge sigh of relief. His authenticity broke my heart. Pushing back tears I asked, “Jon, do you think you have to have all your toys so kids will like you?” He slowly nodded his head yes.

We are all fragile. We fear rejection, whether we admit it or not. Think about how many of us show up at church with all our stuff—driving shiny cars, wearing stylish clothes, carrying expensive bags, keeping a firm grip on our kids so they don’t appear out of control. It’s our Christian version of show and tell. Now there is nothing inherently wrong with nice cars and cool clothes. I happen to love great style. However, there is something tragically wrong when we attach our worth as human beings to material things.

Most parents don’t have a child like Jon who believes his or her value resides in what he or she brings to show and tell. Because of Jon, I have had to ask some hard questions about genuine faith in daily life. It grieves me to know that church can be a place of grave pain for those with disabilities as well as for their caregivers. I don’t think anyone wakes up on Sunday morning wishing to inflict emotional or spiritual injury on those with disabilities, but it happens.

Below are some questions that I have had to wrestle with as a result of experiences with Jon. These questions are meaningless if we’re not willing to change. But if you have the courage to examine your heart, I cheer you on.

1) If a hidden camera were placed in my home, would I fear that others would see my actions? If so, what behaviors do I need to address?
2) Would I be uncomfortable driving to church in an old, beat-up car, wearing less than stylish clothing? If so, what drives that fear?
3) If I were to let my Sunday school or small group know I am struggling, would they judge me? If not, why have I not been more forthcoming in telling them my struggles?
4) Do different or disabled people make me uncomfortable? If so, why?
5) Do I worry what others might think if my children were to misbehave at church? If so, am I more concerned with my kid’s behavior than with our worshiping the Lord?

These tough questions provide a glimpse of what it’s like to learn from my son who has no ability to pretend. The lessons I’ve gleaned from my child are utterly refreshing! I didn’t feel that way at first, but as Jon has taught me about authenticity, pretending to have it all together is a load I don’t ever want to carry again. If you want to know your true value in Christ, you must let go of your stuff.

 

Please feel free to respond. I’m confident you will find many of us share this same struggle.

45 posts categorized "Pastors/Church Ministry"

Tuesday, May 15, 2012

What We Need to Help Us through Trials

What-we-needby Colleen Swindoll Thompson

When you encounter people who are going through a trial, do you find yourself thinking: I really want to help them, but what do they need most? As human beings, we all need the following qualities in our lives to help us through our toughest times. Perhaps pastors and leaders can consider including this list of qualities in their monthly meetings.

Trust: We need to sense acceptance and value from others without judgment of our behaviors, feelings, reactions, displays of emotion, and lack of functioning; this includes confidential and consistent care through a crisis.

Security: We need nonjudgmental support and confidential, consistent help with the management of our daily responsibilities.

Relational Support: We need the presence of people who are comfortable with silence, who are aware of our needs, and who are both consistent and dependable.

Hope: We need encouragement from other people; their help in locating resources; and their commitment to pray for us. We need their dependable and calming presence amidst our doubts, our coping techniques, our mood swings, our lack of control, and our familial demands. We need to see a ray of hope, a light at the end of the tunnel.

Guidance: We need help developing new skills, healthy coping strategies, self-awareness, problem-solving skills, stress-management techniques, and the capacity to deal well with relational conflicts.

Affirmation of strengths: We need others to possess a positive regard for our personal development and character formation.

Time: We need time to cry, to be mad, to have a pity party, to let go of wishes and dreams, to express hardship and sorrow, and to adjust to our trials.

Discovery of meaning and purpose in life: We need the opportunity to rebuild, restructure, reframe, and release life as it was before our crisis, so that we can live life as it is now.

Next time you encounter someone who is struggling, ask God how He might use you to create a supportive environment where healing can happen.

 

45 posts categorized "Pastors/Church Ministry"

Tuesday, May 08, 2012

Soul Truth

Soul-truthby Colleen Swindoll Thompson

You won’t believe what happened in a very formal church, years ago. My son, Jonathan, not quite one year old, had the fantastic gift of throwing up everything he ate. So much so that I thought I would catch a lung at some point. I had moved to Dallas several years before and life had been tough so I ventured out and visited a church. I needed the reminder that God was still on His throne, sovereign, and always faithful.

Jon had so many struggles that getting out the door for church, with three kids under the age of five, was nearly impossible. Eventually, we made it and just as we walked into the formal, gorgeous, well-known, and respected church, Jon began to empty the contents of his stomach everywhere. I heard a big splat, and then Jon gasped for air, and then another splash, which spread across the beautifully polished, expensive tile. One usher came over with such care and offered to help. In the meantime, I grabbed a stack of church bulletins, hoping they would soak up something. On that day I discovered paper does not soak up vomit effectively! I also learned a few other lessons:

1) God doesn’t care about how we try to look, but He does care about our hearts. That is freeing.
2) We can’t possibly live without some messes, either inside or outside our lives. That is relieving.
3) Pride refuses help, but humility welcomes help as God’s hand reaching to you. That is refreshing.

I also learned some funny lessons:

1) Because vomit and stink go together, wear your junk clothes.
2) If throwing up is even a slight possibility, stay home.
3) Church bulletins don’t soak up a single drop of anything, so carry paper towels.

I recently found this prayer written by a man who lost his children and needed some help drying his tears. I love his humble, thoroughly honest words.

Lord of reality
make me real
not plastic
synthetic
pretend phony
an actor playing out his part
hypocrite.
I don’t want
to keep a prayer list
but to pray
nor agonize to find Your will
but to obey
what I already know
to argue
theories of inspiration
but submit to Your Word.
I don’t want
to explain the difference
between eros and philos
and agape
but to love.
I don’t want
to sing as if I mean it
I want to mean it.
I don’t want
to tell it like it is
but to be it
like You want it.
I don’t want
to think another needs me
but I need him
else I’m not complete.
I don’t want
to tell others how to do it
but to do it
to have to be always right
but admit it
when I’m wrong.
I don’t want
to be a census taker
but an obstetrician
nor an involved person
a professional
but a friend.
I don’t want
to be insensitive
but to hurt
where other people hurt
nor to say
I know how you feel
but to say God knows
and I’ll try
if you’ll be patient with me
and meanwhile I’ll be quiet.
I don’t want
to scorn the clichés
of others
but to mean everything I say
including this.¹

 

1. Joseph Bayly, “A Song of Single-Mindedness,” in Psalms of My Life (Wheaton, Ill.: Tyndale House, 1978), 40. Used by permission.